Checklist of Self-Defeating Beliefs
1. Emotional perfectionism: “I should always feel happy, confident, and in control of my emotions.”
2. Emotophobia: “I should never feel angry, anxious, inadequate, jealous, or vulnerable.”
3. Conflict Phobia: “People who love each other shouldn’t fight.”
4. Entitlement: “People should be the way i expect them to be.”
5. Low frustration tolerance: “I should never be frustrated. Life should be easy.”
6. Performance perfectionism: “I must never fail or make a mistake.”
7. Perceived perfectionism: “People will not love and accept me as a flawed and vulnerable human being.”
8. Fear of failure: “My worthwhileness depends on my achievements (or my intelligence, or status, or attractiveness).”
9. Fear of disapproval or Criticism: “I need everybody’s approval to be worthwhile.”
10. Fear of rejection or being alone: “if I’m alone, then I am bound to feel miserable and unfulfilled. If I ‘m not loved, then life is not worth living.”
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